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03:27:08 pm on August 1, 2008 | # |
Note: Please do not find this as me being “A Happiness Guru”. What I am writing are things I have found out about myself and would like to share with others.
Circa 2004. That year was the start of the toughest years of my life. I had so many things to deal with and I didn’t know how to deal with them. There came a point in my life where I just didn’t care about anything…and it showed. I alienated my friends, my work suffered, and I was depressed. Many times, I looked at myself in the mirror and would try to convince myself to get out of this funk that surrounded me. It wasn’t bad enough that my life was in a funk, my co-workers told my boss that I started to smell funky at work. That’s how much I just didn’t care about myself. I was an unhappy person and it didn’t help that I was a smelly unhappy person.
Circa 2006. The year that changed my life. The year my mother passed away. She meant a lot to me. Before she left me, one of our last conversations was about happiness. She told me that for me to be happy, I need to be happy with myself. Before I can fix anything in my life, I need to fix myself. If I was ever going to help anyone in my life, I first need to help myself.Admit. I stood in front of a mirror. I looked at myself and admitted to myself “I AM AN UNHAPPY PERSON. I AM UNHAPPY ABOUT MY LIFE” Just like an AA meeting, you have to admit that you have a problem. What’s wrong? I acknowledged that a problem exist. I now knew I had a problem that needed fixing.
Understand. I now knew that I was unhappy. Now, I needed to understand why I was unhappy. What were the chain of events that got me to where I am now? Write it down. When I wrote down why I was unhappy, the list was long. I was upset that I was not doing what I dream of doing. I was upset that I was so fat and out of shape. I was sad that I didn’t see my friends and the list went on and on. After I was done writing, I realized that there was a lot of things that made me unhappy with my life.
Plan. Now that I had everything written down, I would plan out how I am going to reverse every reason I was unhappy. Simple.
Execute. Now it’s time to put your plan into action. Rome was not built in a day nor will the execution of your plans. It will take time to get the ball rolling. Sometimes the plan may not go to plan. Revise and keep going. I am a lot closer to my friends now, I got me a job that I like doing, but I am still fat and out of shape. I am working on it though, but it takes time. I also still moving forward, slowly, doing the things I dream of doing. Going slow is better than not moving at all, it’s still progress.
Today, I am a happier person. There are things that I am still working on with my plans, it’s not easy. No one said it was going to be easy. But if you have the will and the drive to want to change, the sky is the limit. Don’t ever give in and/or give up. Surround yourself with the people that make you happy and will support you. I never said it was going to be an easy road. I am saying that you can do it. Take control. Happiness begins with you. Comments?
“It ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward.” - Rocky Balboa
Prodinterios 5:44 am on August 8, 2008 | #
This is so awakening! This post has somehow helped me realize many things!
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