gmastasquirrel
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12:55:21 pm on August 18, 2008 | # |
We are, for the most part, all busy people. Between work, kids (if you have them), and any vices that occupy time, we never really stop to smell the roses. I had a busy family, everyone was doing everything to make it in the concrete jungle. One of the moments I loved, was when we sat around the table and had a meal. Those days came and went. The closest we ever got was either going out to eat or eating in the living room while everyone watched the boob tube. I believe dinner at the table is important for our family and a long lost art that is in need of resurrection. Why? I’m glad you asked.
Update. I am sure you have seen those old movies where a family sits around a table and asked “How was your day?”. It’s a time for all of us to gather as family and/or friends and update/evaluate what is going on in each others lives. It’s a time in which we can de-brief each other on the days happenings. When I have meals with my family and friends, I make a rule to never answer my phone. I want them to know they have my full attention. I will usually, very briefly, talk about business. Just like the “Godfather”, I don’t like to discuss business at the table. I love to hear what my sister, brother, niece, father, and friends have been up to. I like to hear about the things that interest them. It’s a chance to really connect with the ones we love.
Company. Doesn’t it feel good to just be surrounded by the people that you love? Doesn’t it feel good to enjoy the company of others that feel the same way about you. It’s nice to sit down with friends and family, set distractions aside, and just “Be”. Some of the best meals I have had with family and friends have been mostly silent. Not because we hate each other and are planning our attack on the other, but because just being there feels good. Sometimes, just like the song goes, “You say it best, when you say nothing at all.” It’s true. It’s true.
Vent. Sometimes we need to vent. What better people to vent our frustrations to then our family and friends. You never know. Sometimes, the vent session will turn your frown upside down. It’s healthy. It helps strengthen the family relationship.
As I grow older, I try to revive the art of the meal at the table. I feel it is important to help a relationship grow. Anyone else feel this way? Anyone got a story? Comment? You know what to do.
Susan Helene Gottfried 2:57 pm on August 20, 2008 | #
I’m such a big advocate of eating together as a family that I’m furious with the organization (that puts family first) that is actually going to prevent us from eating together one night a week.
gmastasquirrel 3:29 pm on August 20, 2008 | #
I’m sorry for hearing such bad news. It’s nice to hear that there are advocates of family dinners. I hope that your organization will give you the time you need to enjoy time with your family.